About this test
Attachment theory, pioneered by John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth, reveals that the bonds we formed with caregivers in early life shape how we connect with romantic partners, friends, and even colleagues as adults. Research has consistently identified four core attachment styles: Secure (comfortable with intimacy and independence), Anxious-Preoccupied (craving closeness while fearing abandonment), Dismissive-Avoidant (valuing self-sufficiency and emotional distance), and Fearful-Avoidant (desiring connection but pulling away out of fear). Your attachment style influences how you handle conflict, express needs, interpret a partner's behavior, and respond when relationships feel uncertain. This test measures two underlying dimensions — Attachment Anxiety (fear of rejection and abandonment) and Attachment Avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence) — through 40 realistic relationship scenarios. Your combination of high or low scores on each dimension determines which of the four styles fits you best, giving you a framework to understand your patterns and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
What you'll discover
Attachment Anxiety
Fear of rejection, abandonment, and not being loved enough. High scorers crave reassurance and worry about their partner's commitment.
Attachment Avoidance
Discomfort with closeness, vulnerability, and emotional dependence. High scorers value self-reliance and keep emotional distance.
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